“How do I know if I’m doing this style thing right?” You might ask. It’s quite subjective but there are definite indicators that you are on the right track. What you first must identify is a problem. You feel like you have no style. Why might that be? What are you doing that you believe is getting in the way of you tapping into your personal style? Once you answer your questions and identify a problem, you can then find a solution.
Let’s walk through habits that inhibit us from connecting with the essence of our style. Learning about style won’t come quick and easy. Though, meditating on and navigating through these first steps will provide an introduction.
Lying can occur unintentionally in regards to style. A lot of times we’ll fawn over a celebrity’s style or the latest trends. Liking a style is incredibly different than wearing a style. We all have dreams, but it’s best to be realistic. When trying something new step outside of your comfort zone but assess whether it fits your lifestyle, figure, taste, and/or age range.
We’ve all done it before…squeezing into a size 8 when we’ve transitioned into a size 10. Who wants to face the truth when their size constantly fluctuates? No one. Swallow your pride and accept the truth. Just because you can “fit” into something doesn’t mean you should wear it. Your pants should not have pulling at the hips or cause thigh rolls. That is an indication that your pants are too small.
Alternatively, buying clothing sizes too big to hide your shape only swallows your figure. You haven’t discovered a clothing hack. You’ve found a way to hide from yourself. Find your size! Tailored clothing makes you look more expensive, confident, and polished.
Introspection is some of the most difficult and challenging mental work we exercise. It requires maturity and an objective point of view. Yet, practicing introspection and becoming acquainted with yourself will allow your style to appear more authentic. Think about when you feel most comfortable. Think about when you feel most attractive. Answer these questions:
What is your favorite color?
What magnet words (glamorous, laid-back, eccentric, modest, etc) attract you?
What first impression would you like to provide?
Choosing flattering colors for your skin tone correlate to knowing your undertones. Here is a quick hack: Look at your inner arm and observe the color of your veins. If your veins appear to be blue or purple, you have cool undertones. If your veins appear to be green or olive, you have warm undertones. If your veins appear blue-green or you can’t tell, you have neutral undertones.
Below I’ve listed the most flattering colors for each undertone.
Cool undertones: Blue, purple, pink, green, silver
Warm undertones: Orange, yellow, burgundy, brown, olive, cream, gold
Neutral undertones: white, red, true blue, blush tones
Take the challenge of spending a month in search of your personal style. Answer the above questions, observe the world around you, and spend time with yourself. Journal your discoveries along the way! Remember that you like what you like. There’s no right way to express yourself. The goal is to be the most authentic and polished you you can be.